Comments on: Single, Jewish, PANIC! http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/ Life beyond the conflict Sun, 21 Mar 2010 08:23:54 +0000 hourly 1 By: Dave Faulkmore http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/comment-page-1/#comment-253183 Dave Faulkmore Wed, 09 Jul 2008 10:18:37 +0000 http://www.israelity.com/?p=4874#comment-253183 Reply to Tanya... All the dating sites i've ever seen, their main goal is to earn money or at least try to charge money. Never seen a site focused on using matchmakers to make matches for other people or turning people into matchmakers. The focus can be building bigger networks (i.e. social networking site) or earning money from event organizing not the matchmaking. I'm working on such a service. Few issues... * Live in Japan, not US or Israel * Things take time to get ready for introducing to market. And btw both Jewish men and women behave badly. The trick is to focus on making matches regardless of these obvious obsticles. If you are OK with banging our collective heads against a wall then we can go ahead and do that knowing the less than favorable likely results. Try to focus more on the process rather than the goal because the ultimate goal is death. In this case, don't be an overachiever.... Reply to Tanya…
All the dating sites i’ve ever seen, their main goal is to earn money or at least try to charge money. Never seen a site focused on using matchmakers to make matches for other people or turning people into matchmakers. The focus can be building bigger networks (i.e. social networking site) or earning money from event organizing not the matchmaking.

I’m working on such a service. Few issues…
* Live in Japan, not US or Israel
* Things take time to get ready for introducing to market.

And btw both Jewish men and women behave badly. The trick is to focus on making matches regardless of these obvious obsticles. If you are OK with banging our collective heads against a wall then we can go ahead and do that knowing the less than favorable likely results. Try to focus more on the process rather than the goal because the ultimate goal is death. In this case, don’t be an overachiever….

]]> By: Tanya http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/comment-page-1/#comment-247428 Tanya Thu, 19 Jun 2008 23:26:57 +0000 http://www.israelity.com/?p=4874#comment-247428 does anyone know how to find a good matchmaker? does anyone know how to find a good matchmaker?

]]> By: Tanya http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/comment-page-1/#comment-247427 Tanya Thu, 19 Jun 2008 23:25:53 +0000 http://www.israelity.com/?p=4874#comment-247427 you are cruel!!! You have no idea how our jewish men behave-sometimes I feel so cursed that I can only restrict my search to short and snobby greedy men who happen to be jewish! you are cruel!!! You have no idea how our jewish men behave-sometimes I feel so cursed that I can only restrict my search to short and snobby greedy men who happen to be jewish!

]]> By: Ivan Goldman http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/comment-page-1/#comment-237623 Ivan Goldman Sun, 11 May 2008 20:28:28 +0000 http://www.israelity.com/?p=4874#comment-237623 They deserve all they get, they so selective, it's like a flea market outthere ... let them feel guilty for all i like, feminism has brought nothing but misery and lament for all the good jewish men outhere in the west ... Next thing u know, they'll be converting to something else coz the men they like are of dif. religion. Their mothers outhere need to remind them how the world works sometimes ... They deserve all they get, they so selective, it’s like a flea market outthere … let them feel guilty for all i like, feminism has brought nothing but misery and lament for all the good jewish men outhere in the west … Next thing u know, they’ll be converting to something else coz the men they like are of dif. religion. Their mothers outhere need to remind them how the world works sometimes …

]]> By: Dave Faulkmore (Tokyo, Japan) http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/comment-page-1/#comment-232679 Dave Faulkmore (Tokyo, Japan) Mon, 07 Apr 2008 09:28:59 +0000 http://www.israelity.com/?p=4874#comment-232679 What does a matchmaker do afterall? Same as a recruiter. They collect quality information on everyone they come into contact with. What is the difference between a recruiter and Shmuel average on the street? Recruiters put more time into gathering quality information. So if Jewish women are having trouble hooking up with Jewish men then a suggestion is for Jewish women to put some more effort into collecting quality information and possibly become a matchmaker themselves. As David-Joe points out, getting results depends on overcoming the "type" barrier. If you have five real Jewish guys to choose from don't hold out until the fantasy/phantom guy materializes. Choose one of the five. Over time, the "type" issue will simply fade away in obsolessence where it belongs... So for example, if a partner search is based on the criteria of money or status then the end relationship may not necessarily be a relationship between two people. Just a relationship of a desire for certain criteria. A relation in abstract, but not in substance. Better for women to focus on finding a partner and then fulfilling that partner's needs rather then "shopping around" trying to fulfill her criteria for Mr. Right. Also Benji Lovitt, please point out those guys that can't find a woman. Are you including men over 55 and boys under 15 into this "troubled" group hahaha... So as you can see i'm a little sceptical... What does a matchmaker do afterall? Same as a recruiter. They collect quality information on everyone they come into contact with. What is the difference between a recruiter and Shmuel average on the street? Recruiters put more time into gathering quality information. So if Jewish women are having trouble hooking up with Jewish men then a suggestion is for Jewish women to put some more effort into collecting quality information and possibly become a matchmaker themselves.

As David-Joe points out, getting results depends on overcoming the “type” barrier. If you have five real Jewish guys to choose from don’t hold out until the fantasy/phantom guy materializes. Choose one of the five. Over time, the “type” issue will simply fade away in obsolessence where it belongs…

So for example, if a partner search is based on the criteria of money or status then the end relationship may not necessarily be a relationship between two people. Just a relationship of a desire for certain criteria. A relation in abstract, but not in substance.

Better for women to focus on finding a partner and then fulfilling that partner’s needs rather then “shopping around” trying to fulfill her criteria for Mr. Right.

Also Benji Lovitt, please point out those guys that can’t find a woman. Are you including men over 55 and boys under 15 into this “troubled” group hahaha… So as you can see i’m a little sceptical…

]]> By: Benji Lovitt http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/comment-page-1/#comment-232090 Benji Lovitt Thu, 03 Apr 2008 06:20:07 +0000 http://www.israelity.com/?p=4874#comment-232090 There are as many American Jewish men with issues equal in size to the women. There are as many American Jewish men with issues equal in size to the women.

]]> By: David-Joe http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/comment-page-1/#comment-232052 David-Joe Wed, 02 Apr 2008 23:11:58 +0000 http://www.israelity.com/?p=4874#comment-232052 I am not indicting anyone, but merely stating that American Jewish women have a picture of the man they want that is very specific so when there are complaints about a lack of Jewish men they should hold themselves responsible.. Fortunately there are also Israeli women and Russian Jewish women who by and large are different. I am not indicting anyone, but merely stating that American Jewish women have a picture of the man they want that is very specific so when there are complaints about a lack of Jewish men they should hold themselves responsible..

Fortunately there are also Israeli women and Russian Jewish women who by and large are different.

]]> By: Benji Lovitt http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/comment-page-1/#comment-231986 Benji Lovitt Wed, 02 Apr 2008 11:40:08 +0000 http://www.israelity.com/?p=4874#comment-231986 That's preposterous. Men deserve the women they end up with. Don't indict millions of people. That’s preposterous. Men deserve the women they end up with. Don’t indict millions of people.

]]> By: David-Joe http://israelity.com/2008/04/01/single-jewish-panic/comment-page-1/#comment-231972 David-Joe Wed, 02 Apr 2008 10:18:13 +0000 http://www.israelity.com/?p=4874#comment-231972 The truth? Jewish women in America are raised with "high standaeds" and by this I refer to not even looking at a man unless he is a university educated, professional, has a "status" type of occupation and is making lots of money and is a typical sort of "diaspora guy". So excuse me if I have no sympathy for these women. The truth?

Jewish women in America are raised with “high standaeds” and by this I refer to not even looking at a man unless he is a university educated, professional, has a “status” type of occupation and is making lots of money and is a typical sort of “diaspora guy”.

So excuse me if I have no sympathy for these women.

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